Start Loving Yourself Today

“Self-love” is all the rage nowadays, but that doesn’t mean it has to be just another passing trend. Self-love is survival. Life is full of struggles, and loving ourselves on a regular basis creates a solid foundation for supporting us through them. When you’re not used to it, though, it can be hard to know where to start. So what can you do today to start loving yourself more? Below are my top 5 favorite ways.

    1. Practice the Reverse Golden Rule: We’ve all heard the age-old Golden Rule of, “Treat others how you want to be treated,” and most of us are pretty good at living by it. But the reverse is also a powerful way to live: “Treat yourself how you’d like others to be treated.” We tend to be much kinder to and patient with other people than we are with ourselves. As you go throughout your day today, try to notice how you internally talk to yourself.
    2. Talk positively to yourself: Whether it’s verbally talking to yourself or writing it down in a journal, giving yourself a pep talk is incredibly empowering! Instead of thinking of your insecurities, remind yourself what you love about yourself. List out your accomplishments. Write down what you’re grateful for. You have the power to change the focus of your thoughts, and that can be truly life-changing.
    3. Reframe your limiting beliefs: To begin loving yourself more, you have to address the thinking that has gotten you to this lack of love for yourself. Think about your biggest insecurities, and write them down. Why do you feel that way? Then, reword these beliefs into constructive and uplifting ones. For example, instead of, “No one cares what I say,” try, “The people that matter care what I say.” Change your narrative, and you’ll change your life.


  • Do something fun by yourself:  Just like you’d spend time with a friend to nurture that relationship, you have to spend some time with yourself to nourish your self-relationship too. I personally love experiencing new things on my own because it feels so special, like my own little secret memories. Whether it’s seeing a movie, going on a road trip, or partaking in a hobby, time to yourself allows you to do exactly what you want at your own pace and enjoy yourself along the way.


  • Take care of your future self:  Even if today is one of those days where you’re not feeling particularly fond of yourself, you can still love and take care of yourself in an objective way. When I’m feeling “blah” about my day, I try to at least tidy up the house, pay some bills, or do some other random errand. It may not be the most fun,st fun, but your future self will be so grateful!



The number of ways you can start loving yourself today is infinite, and only you know what will work best for you personally. Never give up trying to find what works – You are more than worth it!


Written by Jade Joseph “Girl Untitled

Flora & Fauna is pleased to announce a series of upcoming collaborations with Jade Joseph, a personal growth & self-love enthusiast who loves to share her random thoughts on life with others. Ever since graduating with her degrees in Human Services & Sociology, she’s been fascinated with the power of perception and mindfulness in everyday life. Instead of becoming the counselor she had originally dreamed of being, she decided she wanted to pursue that type of work in a more entrepreneurial and creative way. Her new dream is to eventually be a full-time author, blogger, and life coach.


With a passion for connecting with and helping others, Jade is always available on social media to remind you of your worth, potential, and the fact you are not alone. Her primary social media platform is Twitter, but she can also be found on Facebook and Instagram.


Some of her upcoming projects involve writing an e-book and creating at-your-own-pace e-courses on practicing mindfulness and self-love. In her free time, she loves reading, making quote art, exploring her new home in the Pacific Northwest, and spending time with friends and family. It is her hope that her social media and blog,, can be a source of insight for you in your own journey creating your most fulfilling life.


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Self-care is something that a lot of people struggle with. It’s no secret that we all go through trials that make us have to look inside and figure out who we are and what we want to be. I feel as though it is our obligation to ourselves that we figure out who we are and sometimes that takes a bit of time. And that’s okay. One of the most important things about self-care is taking the time out for yourself, no matter how long you need, to figure out what’s best for you. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, you need to figure out who you are and what you like.


That being said, self-care to me is essentially slowing down and taking a deep breath. I unintentionally get wrapped up in college, friend problems, and sometimes my own head. It’s easy to spiral into a big ball of stress, but it’s not exactly easy to find a way out of it.


My way of getting out is typically stopping for a second and acknowledging that I am starting to stress. If it’s something I can take a break from, I usually back away from it. If I’m in my dorm, I tend to take a shower because the hot water feels really nice and helps relax my muscles if I’m tense. Sometimes I massage my hair with a nice smelling product that begins to put me in a better mood than I was in. From there, I usually do a face mask (which has become an everyday routine now) plug my headphones into my phone and do meditation.


People have different ideas of meditation, it could be listening to your favorite album or listening to the sounds of waves crashing on the shore (my personal favorite). Depending on how I am feeling, I sometimes use different meditation apps, such as Simple Habit, Headspace, or Calm. I’ve found that they are really useful in calming me down and centering myself. If somehow none of this works, I go for a walk and listen to music on the lowest setting. Sometimes being alone with your thoughts is the best way to work through trying to fix a problem, which will then lower your stress levels.


Stress is a very real thing and has been normalized in this day and age. The best way to combat it is self-care. We need to make sure that we are healthy both physically and mentally. Just because your body is in good shape, doesn’t mean your mind is. Being healthy mentally and physically is the key to self-care.

Read more self-care tips from Courtney on her blog.


Written by Courtney Smith