What is confidence? Often we hear life lessons about having great self-esteem and how to not succumb to peer pressure. These lessons range from short anecdotes or “Do these two things and you will be...” but obtaining self-confidence isn’t always as easy as it seems. And sadly it’s not something that can be taught in a classroom. Our parents tell us, be confident, stand up for yourself and for what you believe in. But for many of us, we have no clue what that even looks like or how to start becoming more confident. This is definitely not an overnight process but with small tips, we’re on our way to building better confidence.
Tip #1: Acknowledge what makes you uncomfortable. How can you better tackle your insecurities if you are not aware of what they are? For me, especially when I was younger, having my arms out (due to having eczema) made me extremely uncomfortable. It got so bad to the point where I was wearing long-sleeved sweaters in the middle of summer. I would sweat, overheat and it took me a while to work through it. To get over your insecurities you have to identify what they are.
Tip #2: Find the pace in which you want to tackle your insecurities. Some people love to attack their insecurities head on and just get over them. Others need to slowly dip their toe into the pool and take their time. This process deals a lot with figuring out what method and styles work for you and make you comfortable. Although you are going to be uncomfortable at times, take this time to experience new things, learn more about yourself and what makes you feel good.
Tip #3: Reward yourself. Challenging and breaking old habits definitely isn’t easy. Begin rewarding yourself for stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying new things. If you try one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable, try one thing that really makes you feel good about yourself. Maybe that’s wearing your favorite shirt, or complimenting yourself in the mirror. Pick one positive thing to focus on and work from there!
Tip #4: This tip can be either the simplest or hardest depending on your mindset. Simply put FOCUS. ON. THE. GOOD. It can be so easy to put ourselves down and talk negative things about ourselves. The more you speak it, the easier it is to manifest that same energy. Instead of picking out flaw after flaw, try finding at least one good thing you like about yourself and repeat daily. Positive affirmations are good for this because not only are you writing them down but you are also speaking them into existence. If you’re not ready for affirmations try small things that make you feel good inside. Like a bubble bath or trying on clothes. Pick at least one positive thing to do every day to combat the negative thoughts.
All in all, take your time to grow and develop new habits. Building new confidence does not come easy and certainly does not develop overnight. Give yourself the time and patience you need to achieve small goals and build positivity. Start these small tips, and keep to them! You can do it!